First let me say: HAPPY MEMORIAL DAY to you!...so, I am here in Dallas and it's POPPIN this weekend...naturally, I picked up some more material...in this entry, I will introduce each of them and if there are more details to follow, I will write separately...ok, here we go:
Morris
So, I met Morris while out a restaurant with my friends. we made eyes for a bit and then I realized that he was sitting with someone I knew. So, I get up to hug the person I know and casually said "oh, who is this"...lol...shortly after the introduction, Morris makes his way over to sit with me and my friends. Morris' stats: 30, no kids, only child between both parents (he has some step siblings), educator by day - promoter by night (skeptical about that), from Michigan, has a motorcycle, chocolaty brown, nice build, maybe 6'3ish...now, Morris is one of those cats that I WANT to call me....lol...so, we'll see...also in the midst of the conversation, I learn that he works out in MY fitness facility everyday after work because he used to live here, I was like..hmm..I've neva seen you around these parts, guess I need to take my ass to that facility more regularly around 5ish Mon-Fri...LOL...hopefully there will be more to come on him!
Rodney
I met Rodney for the 2nd time at an event on Saturday...the first time we met, I was unable to find out any information about him, but this time, he was interested in chatting with me....Rodney's stats: 36 yrs old, separated (ugh, it's going around), father of 3 (ugh, that's going around too, shit), 6'5ish, caramel colored, H.S. BB coach (head coach), played ball in college...Rodney seems like a nice guy, but I was immediately turned off from any romantic interest with the wife and 3 kids...remember Justin (*sigh)....anyway, Rodney ends up coming to the spot that my friends and I are at on Sat night, which was cool...but wait, he then shows up to where I am Sunday...I'm like, what are you doing here, he says, you told me you were gonna be here...ummm...is that an invite though?!?!...idk, I guess it could be seen that way...anywho, I sat with him for just a second and then said I had to go...Rodney didn't even have an eighth of the impact on me like Justin did...why, umm...he just doesn't have "IT"..or maybe I'm just wore out from hearing about wives and children, idk....lol...either way it makes it to where I have no issue with being cool with him, I'm just wondering at what point I'll have to tell him that I have no romantic interest..hmm...may be more to come on that too....
Malcolm
I met Malcolm at this same event...lol...at a different time of course (I'm no dummy)...Malcolm's attire peaked my interest...he was wearing a plaid shirt, army fatigue shorts, mandals (I love them, btw) and some of those big-framed glasses....he had an Andre 3000 feel to him and I was feelin that whole vibe...it was different....Malcolm was there with a friend, as was I...my friend was interested in meeting his friend, so, I set it up to where we ended up playing spades with them..during the game, we all exchange information...they all pull out their bi-ness cards and Malcolm says to me, "well how are we supposed to get in touch with you"..lol..so, I do it the old school way and just put my info in his phone and then his friend handed me his phone to do the same..is that strange?!?!..maybe not..anwyay, Malcolm's stats: 35 yr old design engineer by day, comedian at night...and that's as far as I got....so, Malcolm calls me yesterday afternoon inquiring about my plans for the evening, I tell him what I had planned (which I'm glad he didn't show up...I'll have to work on that)....and he told me to hit him up later, which I did, but never heard back from him...so, I'm not sure where we are with Malcolm...there may be more to come on him too...
Tim
Lastly we have Tim....I met time at the end of the same event...you can imagine I was wore out at this point...anywho...Tim just moved here, he claims to be 31, but I believe in my heart he's 21...lol..he has 2 children, 2 baby momma's and umm....that's all on him...no more to come...LOL!
SN: Everyone here has a bi-ness card, now, I too have a bi-ness card, but it has all my work information on it..I don't want these fools reaching out to me on my work email and cell....everytime I go somewhere, someone is asking me for a card, so I've decided to create myself a bi-ness card...it will read:
Name
Socialite
Cell/Email
It will also have a graphic of some sort (I'm thinkin a martini glass) and will have somethin that reads: fun.food.fellowship...I'm still working on the details...thoughts?!!?!
Monday, May 31, 2010
CONTROL (as sung by Janet Jackson)
"When I was seventeen I did what people told me..did what my father said, and let my mother mold me...."
So, while here on vacation I had dinner with a friend of mine, Craig, and his new girlfriend Sheila. I have known Craig for years. He is what you would call an over achiever and has done really well for himself and he is only in his 30s. While I had never met Sheila personally, I have heard all great things about her. Meeting her, I must admit that all the things I heard were true: she's a warm, smart, beautiful sister and I thoroughly enjoyed her presence. One thing that stood out, that no one has ever mentioned by the way, is that Sheila is YOUNG. I mean I know we are not that old ourselves (Thirty is the new twenty, right Jay?), but she is like 18/19 years old young (I was afraid to have her identify her age, plus the drinking age her is 18 so I couldn't rightfully snatch that rum punch from her).
When Craig asked me what I thought of Sheila, I told him that she seemed really nice and really young. Not that there is something wrong with that, just was not expecting that from him. If anything I would have thought he would be with someone older. A little backstory, I met Craig through my mentor and Craig is friends with older established folks. My mentor and his wife are older so I assumed that Craig would date older. Then Craig gave me inspiration for this blog entry......
Craig told me that what attracts him most to Sheila is that fact that she is young and unestablished. He likes the CONTROL it gives him. In fact, she let it slip during dinner that she just moved into his place. When I joked with him about that, he again said it is all about CONTROL. When not working at Marshall's, she basically caters to him at the house. Does what she is told and stays in her place I suppose. Now I'm all for sexy talk, and in the heat of passion may even like to here the phrase 'DADDY,' but do I really want to play the fatherly role with you?
While Sheila is beautiful, I begin to feel a little sad for her. She is in the prime of her life and yet, whether she knows it or not, she is being CONTROLLED by her relationship. Sidebar, Craig is doing well and takes very good care of home (i.e. she is here in Virgin Islands with him..expenses paid), but is that enough to sustain a relationship?
Should relationships be about CONTROL or should it be a partnership? Can one person have the upper hand and the relationship work? What say you?
P.S. Happy Memorial Day...i am back on Wednesday with more regular check-ins of the board!
So, while here on vacation I had dinner with a friend of mine, Craig, and his new girlfriend Sheila. I have known Craig for years. He is what you would call an over achiever and has done really well for himself and he is only in his 30s. While I had never met Sheila personally, I have heard all great things about her. Meeting her, I must admit that all the things I heard were true: she's a warm, smart, beautiful sister and I thoroughly enjoyed her presence. One thing that stood out, that no one has ever mentioned by the way, is that Sheila is YOUNG. I mean I know we are not that old ourselves (Thirty is the new twenty, right Jay?), but she is like 18/19 years old young (I was afraid to have her identify her age, plus the drinking age her is 18 so I couldn't rightfully snatch that rum punch from her).
When Craig asked me what I thought of Sheila, I told him that she seemed really nice and really young. Not that there is something wrong with that, just was not expecting that from him. If anything I would have thought he would be with someone older. A little backstory, I met Craig through my mentor and Craig is friends with older established folks. My mentor and his wife are older so I assumed that Craig would date older. Then Craig gave me inspiration for this blog entry......
Craig told me that what attracts him most to Sheila is that fact that she is young and unestablished. He likes the CONTROL it gives him. In fact, she let it slip during dinner that she just moved into his place. When I joked with him about that, he again said it is all about CONTROL. When not working at Marshall's, she basically caters to him at the house. Does what she is told and stays in her place I suppose. Now I'm all for sexy talk, and in the heat of passion may even like to here the phrase 'DADDY,' but do I really want to play the fatherly role with you?
While Sheila is beautiful, I begin to feel a little sad for her. She is in the prime of her life and yet, whether she knows it or not, she is being CONTROLLED by her relationship. Sidebar, Craig is doing well and takes very good care of home (i.e. she is here in Virgin Islands with him..expenses paid), but is that enough to sustain a relationship?
Should relationships be about CONTROL or should it be a partnership? Can one person have the upper hand and the relationship work? What say you?
P.S. Happy Memorial Day...i am back on Wednesday with more regular check-ins of the board!
Saturday, May 29, 2010
Perils in Paradise
Good Saturday! Sorry for the absence the past few days, but I bring you greetings from the lovely island of St. Thomas. I am posting this while sitting on the beach, drink in hand (not bragging, just setting the scene...Lol). Hope everyone is doing well.
So, I arrived here and it immediately started raining. It rained the entire first day here. Yesterday, I went drinking in my favorite sunglasses and awoke to find them missing. This
morning my cell phone died...like completely shut down. What is supposed to be a relaxing vacation is turning into a mini-nightmare.
I will return next week, hopefully with some interesting entries for this blog. My eyes are always open for foolishness. Enjoy the holiday weekend!
P.S. I must offer my condolences to actor Gary Coleman who died on yesterday at age 42. You will be missed little man. Just be sure to tell Micheal Jackson that you are not a child.
So, I arrived here and it immediately started raining. It rained the entire first day here. Yesterday, I went drinking in my favorite sunglasses and awoke to find them missing. This
morning my cell phone died...like completely shut down. What is supposed to be a relaxing vacation is turning into a mini-nightmare.I will return next week, hopefully with some interesting entries for this blog. My eyes are always open for foolishness. Enjoy the holiday weekend!
P.S. I must offer my condolences to actor Gary Coleman who died on yesterday at age 42. You will be missed little man. Just be sure to tell Micheal Jackson that you are not a child.
Wednesday, May 26, 2010
So You Choose...Now What?!?!....
At some point in life we all choose who we think our mate should be...but when that day comes, we may or may not be able to act on it for several reasons: they're involved, you haven't expressed your feelings, they're your best friend, etc....but, we've mentally decided that is the person we want to be our life partner...so how do you handle that...let's look at a couple scenarios:
The Best Friend
You've been friends for years, you know exactly how each other functions, how you think, you love being in their presence and you know EVERYTHING about one another...that's good and bad right..yep, it is...so you reach a point in your life when you've had several serious relationships and a couple of flings....lol...but no one compares to how you feel when you're with this person. This person is the standard for what you'd want in a life partner, so what do you do? How do you handle it? Do you take a risk and let them know your innermost feelings about them or do you just let 'what's meant to be, be'?
My thoughts on this are to go for it...why, you ask, why would I condone risking the friendship?...it's simple...if you are truly friends and are at a certain maturity level, you should be able to A) have an adult conversation about it (they may feel the same) and B) give it a shot...your bond should be strong enough to bounce back if it doesn't work out...the other piece is this, because this is a BEST friend, neither parties would enter into it haphazardly, i.e., knowing that they're not ready for that type of commitment....just my thoughts...
Un-Resolved Ex Feelings
So, you were in a relationship with this person for years, it had it's up and downs, maybe more downs than ups...you eventually got to a point where you decided it wasn't going to work...so, you move on...at that time, you have no regrets, it's the best thing that ever happened to you, they gon miss you when you gone, etc...lol...as the years go on, you do your thing they do theirs....you reconnect after a couple of years (for whatever purpose) and all of sudden realize, wait, I think I'm still in love with this person....you try to fight those feelings because after all, an ex is an ex for reason...maybe, maybe not....maybe they were an ex to help you realize where your true happiness lies or maybe they are just that, an ex....but what if it's not the latter...are you too prideful to admit that is who you want to be your life partner...maybe because you're the one that flexed your muscles in the end....who knows....the question is, how do you handle it? Do you put yourself out there and risk rejection?...no one likes that right...do you make yourself vulnerable for someone who you told to go to hell in gasoline draws?!?!...lol...
My thoughts on this...the above is purely a pride thing...if you put your feelings out there and they are not reciprocated, keep it movin...you've spoke your piece and you'll sleep easier...if you hold it in because you're scared, you may have real regrets 5yrs down the line...now, what about if you express your feelings and they express theirs and you're on the same page...win-win right....a good friend of mine told me that sometimes you have to deal with a little pain to ultimately have pleasure...the pleasure may not be getting the person, it may be that you've released those feelings and while they weren't reciprocated, you truly have no regrets, which can help minimize baggage in a new relationship...again, just my thoughts...
So, the question remains, what are you willing to do for love? Is your pride more important than your overall happiness? Would you risk that friendship to escalate it to a life partnership??
As Mr. Negativity would say...what say you?!
The Best Friend
You've been friends for years, you know exactly how each other functions, how you think, you love being in their presence and you know EVERYTHING about one another...that's good and bad right..yep, it is...so you reach a point in your life when you've had several serious relationships and a couple of flings....lol...but no one compares to how you feel when you're with this person. This person is the standard for what you'd want in a life partner, so what do you do? How do you handle it? Do you take a risk and let them know your innermost feelings about them or do you just let 'what's meant to be, be'?
My thoughts on this are to go for it...why, you ask, why would I condone risking the friendship?...it's simple...if you are truly friends and are at a certain maturity level, you should be able to A) have an adult conversation about it (they may feel the same) and B) give it a shot...your bond should be strong enough to bounce back if it doesn't work out...the other piece is this, because this is a BEST friend, neither parties would enter into it haphazardly, i.e., knowing that they're not ready for that type of commitment....just my thoughts...
Un-Resolved Ex Feelings
So, you were in a relationship with this person for years, it had it's up and downs, maybe more downs than ups...you eventually got to a point where you decided it wasn't going to work...so, you move on...at that time, you have no regrets, it's the best thing that ever happened to you, they gon miss you when you gone, etc...lol...as the years go on, you do your thing they do theirs....you reconnect after a couple of years (for whatever purpose) and all of sudden realize, wait, I think I'm still in love with this person....you try to fight those feelings because after all, an ex is an ex for reason...maybe, maybe not....maybe they were an ex to help you realize where your true happiness lies or maybe they are just that, an ex....but what if it's not the latter...are you too prideful to admit that is who you want to be your life partner...maybe because you're the one that flexed your muscles in the end....who knows....the question is, how do you handle it? Do you put yourself out there and risk rejection?...no one likes that right...do you make yourself vulnerable for someone who you told to go to hell in gasoline draws?!?!...lol...
My thoughts on this...the above is purely a pride thing...if you put your feelings out there and they are not reciprocated, keep it movin...you've spoke your piece and you'll sleep easier...if you hold it in because you're scared, you may have real regrets 5yrs down the line...now, what about if you express your feelings and they express theirs and you're on the same page...win-win right....a good friend of mine told me that sometimes you have to deal with a little pain to ultimately have pleasure...the pleasure may not be getting the person, it may be that you've released those feelings and while they weren't reciprocated, you truly have no regrets, which can help minimize baggage in a new relationship...again, just my thoughts...
So, the question remains, what are you willing to do for love? Is your pride more important than your overall happiness? Would you risk that friendship to escalate it to a life partnership??
As Mr. Negativity would say...what say you?!
Tuesday, May 25, 2010
Happy To Be Here...Eager To Offend
Wow! What an introduction. Let me start off by thanking the beautiful and talented creator of this blog, Omniscient. I appreciate her willingness to reach out and I hope I live up to her expectations here.
I am a 30-something, single professional male residing in ATL. Trust me when I tell you, it is not all it is cracked up to be. I make the most of it and I enjoy what I do. I hope to share more about me and my life (dating, partying, travels,etc.) as the journey continues. My goal as guest blogger is to put out what I think are interesting discussions and hopefully piss some people off. I mean really, a good blog needs some controversy...right?
So, with that being said...let's get to it!
According to TMZ, rapper Nas and singer Kelis are now officially divorced (that's right fellas, she can now be BOSSY with you too...for the right price)! At the divorce hearing, the judge ordered Nas to immediately dish out $47,249.42 in back child support and $40,454 in back spousal support. The judge also ordered him to pay $10K a month in spousal support until he pays off almost $300K he owes Kelis in back shild/spousal support. Nas also has to pay 90% of her legal fees in the amount of $155,787.28 and $48,549.83 to cover Kelis' acoounting expenses.
In the words of my girl Necole B., "I don't have to pull out my calculator to see that $47,249.42 + $40,454 + $300,000 + $155,787.28 + $48,549.83 = A LOT OF DAMN MONEY!!"
Now, I am all about taking care of the kids...I mean, that's your seed so you have to provide for his/her future. But DAMN, spousal support?!? It is not like Kelis does not have a job or a skill set...she is a talented, able bodied musician herself. Does she really need that much money in spousal support? I know her MILKSHAKE brings all the boys to the yard, but damn, for that price I'll stick to the strawberry/kiwi slushies at Sonics.
Brothers, watch out for this new attack. Not only do you have to 'wrap it up,' but you better make sure that she is degreed and working in her field with her OWN money....or at least have an iron-clad PRE-NUP. Guess who's singing I HATE YOU SO MUCH RIGHT NOW today?
What say you? How much money is too much?
I am a 30-something, single professional male residing in ATL. Trust me when I tell you, it is not all it is cracked up to be. I make the most of it and I enjoy what I do. I hope to share more about me and my life (dating, partying, travels,etc.) as the journey continues. My goal as guest blogger is to put out what I think are interesting discussions and hopefully piss some people off. I mean really, a good blog needs some controversy...right?
So, with that being said...let's get to it!
According to TMZ, rapper Nas and singer Kelis are now officially divorced (that's right fellas, she can now be BOSSY with you too...for the right price)! At the divorce hearing, the judge ordered Nas to immediately dish out $47,249.42 in back child support and $40,454 in back spousal support. The judge also ordered him to pay $10K a month in spousal support until he pays off almost $300K he owes Kelis in back shild/spousal support. Nas also has to pay 90% of her legal fees in the amount of $155,787.28 and $48,549.83 to cover Kelis' acoounting expenses.
In the words of my girl Necole B., "I don't have to pull out my calculator to see that $47,249.42 + $40,454 + $300,000 + $155,787.28 + $48,549.83 = A LOT OF DAMN MONEY!!"
Now, I am all about taking care of the kids...I mean, that's your seed so you have to provide for his/her future. But DAMN, spousal support?!? It is not like Kelis does not have a job or a skill set...she is a talented, able bodied musician herself. Does she really need that much money in spousal support? I know her MILKSHAKE brings all the boys to the yard, but damn, for that price I'll stick to the strawberry/kiwi slushies at Sonics.
Brothers, watch out for this new attack. Not only do you have to 'wrap it up,' but you better make sure that she is degreed and working in her field with her OWN money....or at least have an iron-clad PRE-NUP. Guess who's singing I HATE YOU SO MUCH RIGHT NOW today?
What say you? How much money is too much?
Introducing - - - - Mr. Negativity - - - - My Guest Blogger...
So, I've been getting crucified for not providing daily posts for my readers...the truth is, after Antowne, I had nothing left (hence me saying, and then there were none)...I will still continue to post when something entertaining happens....anywho, I've decided to make this more interesting by adding a male friend of mine as a guest blogger...his name is Mr. Negativity...
Mr. Negativity will write about whatever his heart desires...I can see us having some GREAT gender debates...like myself, Mr. Negativity will keep it REAL, he will give his honest opinion on whatever topic he blogs about or comments on, so again I say, this blog is not for sensitive folks...
I thought that this would add an interesting dynamic to the blog and keep my readers intrigued...I believe he will post his first blog tonight...
Introducing....Mr. Negativity! (clap, clap, clap)
Mr. Negativity will write about whatever his heart desires...I can see us having some GREAT gender debates...like myself, Mr. Negativity will keep it REAL, he will give his honest opinion on whatever topic he blogs about or comments on, so again I say, this blog is not for sensitive folks...
I thought that this would add an interesting dynamic to the blog and keep my readers intrigued...I believe he will post his first blog tonight...
Introducing....Mr. Negativity! (clap, clap, clap)
Monday, May 24, 2010
The Weight Factor...Should It Matter??!!...
So this is the first entry that is not about me...which excites me, because I give out a lot of advice, but who am I?!?!?!...if you are offended by this post, please refer to my welcome! :-)
A friend of mine is struggling with her mate's weight...they've been together for several years and he is everything that she wants in a man, but she is not physically attracted to him because he has a larger frame (they have little to no intimacy)...she shared this information with another friend of hers who told her that she was shallow, but I beg to differ...I told her that she is being realistic with herself, while weight is a "sensitive" topic, it's better to be honest than to tell your mate how great and wonderful they are,l when in the back of your mind you're disgusted watching them eat or take their clothes off...I know that sounded harsh, but it's REAL...folks try to tip-toe around this kind of stuff and quite frankly, I don't understand why...lack of physical attraction will lead to infidelity...PERIOD....I also advised her to talk to him about it...maybe he doesn't realize she has an issue with it...
I've dated a few "larger" men and the issue typically isn't that they're fat, it's usually that they don't care that they're fat...that's a problem...not only is it a physical attraction issue, but it can also lead to health issues down the line and when you're thinking about a life partner, that's something to consider...now, please don't confuse being fat with being structurally big...some folks will always be big, but when that belly is hanging over them pants....hmph...I'll just leave it at that...and let's be clear, I'm not being judgemental, because my belly shole does hang...lol...but I also don't have a sedentary life (lazy for the slow folks)....
So I caught up with my friend A) to be sure she was okay with me blogging about here and B) to see where she was with this situation...she informed that they're eating right, TOGETHER...that's cool and I hope it works out for them...
Now, I pose this question to my readers...and I'm looking for HONEST answers, not any politically correct ish...what would be your advice to her on this topic?!?!?!
A friend of mine is struggling with her mate's weight...they've been together for several years and he is everything that she wants in a man, but she is not physically attracted to him because he has a larger frame (they have little to no intimacy)...she shared this information with another friend of hers who told her that she was shallow, but I beg to differ...I told her that she is being realistic with herself, while weight is a "sensitive" topic, it's better to be honest than to tell your mate how great and wonderful they are,l when in the back of your mind you're disgusted watching them eat or take their clothes off...I know that sounded harsh, but it's REAL...folks try to tip-toe around this kind of stuff and quite frankly, I don't understand why...lack of physical attraction will lead to infidelity...PERIOD....I also advised her to talk to him about it...maybe he doesn't realize she has an issue with it...
I've dated a few "larger" men and the issue typically isn't that they're fat, it's usually that they don't care that they're fat...that's a problem...not only is it a physical attraction issue, but it can also lead to health issues down the line and when you're thinking about a life partner, that's something to consider...now, please don't confuse being fat with being structurally big...some folks will always be big, but when that belly is hanging over them pants....hmph...I'll just leave it at that...and let's be clear, I'm not being judgemental, because my belly shole does hang...lol...but I also don't have a sedentary life (lazy for the slow folks)....
So I caught up with my friend A) to be sure she was okay with me blogging about here and B) to see where she was with this situation...she informed that they're eating right, TOGETHER...that's cool and I hope it works out for them...
Now, I pose this question to my readers...and I'm looking for HONEST answers, not any politically correct ish...what would be your advice to her on this topic?!?!?!
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